Decision that mattered the most

Life will be tough to you if you remain constant and don’t adapt to the changing times. The change can be in any form, as personal level change, as professional level change or as social change.it is tough to adapt to changes if one does not have strong will power or decision making power.

I took such a tough decision on 18^th Feb 2011 to move to Bangalore, a city that is around 2300 Kms away from my home. Only motivation behind taking that decision was to have a Successful Life on my own terms without depending on my family. It was aimed to get a nice job based on my qualification and then keep growing there. I was happy when I decided that but it was tough on emotional level not only for me but also for my loved ones. Imagine you leaving your loved ones on one fine day with whom you have spent beautiful moments of your life. So like every other person It was almost emotionally breaking decision for everyone in family, but I had strong enough will power to get out of that emotion and start the journey of my dreams.

Once I came to Bangalore and joined my 1^st job within 1 month of coming here, one thing was clear in my mind and that was my Goal for which I have come so far. I still remember my 1^st salary getting credited in bank account and then that night of 28^th Feb came in my mind when I was waiting for train at Station for a long journey ahead. Had I become emotionally weak on that night and gone back home, I would have never got this feeling of happiness of living on my own. At that time my will power and tough decision making had paid off but there was long way to go. I kept working hard week after week, month after month and kept growing and in 4 years of journey in Bangalore I have come a long way successfully. Yes I do miss spending quality time with loved ones and home-made food , I do get emotional many times but feeling of being able to live on your terms and your own resources is immense. It makes you a man from a boy. It develops your personality as responsible human being. I have been able to do all this with only one tough decision that I had taken 4 years back and looking back I have no regret for it.

We need to keep taking decisions, sometime small ones in our day to day life and sometimes big and tough ones that determines how we are going to go ahead in life and what we are going to achieve in life. Just keep believing in yourself and keep taking strong decision to become a better person than you are now. I did it and it paid off for me. A decision taken at a right time is the best decision taken in life.

This blog post is part of initiative by https://housing.com to understand and share different stories related with starting a new life with the help of decisions one makes in life.

Living together and Conquering together

This post is part of wonderful initiative by https://housing.com for promoting optimism in life and how optimism played role in my life.

Life is unpredictable and it becomes really tough sometimes to handle the pressure and all the odds around us. Many times we all try to find short cut to get out of that tough situation , it works sometimes but most of the time it does not. This is the moment in life when your family and loved ones come in picture to help you get out of the tough condition. Many times just seeing their happy faces eases out your frustration and tension. If we have not had those people in our life, it would have been hell lot of tough to go through tough times and conquer in life.

I have always been a part of a lower middle class family of one of the most backward state of India, Uttar Pradesh. With relatively tough financial situation it was tough to persuade my mother for higher education and cost was way beyond our family capacity. I can’t forget the day I told her about me willing to do Masters in Computers after my Graduation, I was not sure how it would roll out with everyone in family but to my surprise I was applauded by them. I was even given a big hug and even some extra pocket money on that day to enjoy the decision I had taken and I chose to enjoy the moment with kids in family. It was a pleasant surprise on that day and I can never forget it. Despite all odds my decision was so well accepted, may be they had more confidence in me than I myself had about the decision. The awesome feelings you get during such days in your life are tough to pen down. During such moments sometimes you cry in happiness, sometimes you stand still without knowing how to react and there can’t be any happiness better than being able to live that moment with your loved ones.

That day turned me into a different person all together, if I had gotten even a hint of negativity from family members on that day, I would have never made it till here. That day was auspicious, awesome, pleasantry surprising and last but not the least Life Changing, to be more precise that would be my real Birth Day.   

There is a saying that decisions you take in life makes you the person you would be, but to add to that the decision your loved ones take to support your decision is also important factor in making you. No doubt that I took that decision but the decision taken by my family members on that auspicious day helped me to grow up in life. Whenever I think about that day, it makes me sad and happy at same time, sad for giving troubling times to my family members but happy  that I didn't disappoint them and now we are living a relatively happy life than that we had in those tough times.

Despite our ever-connective technology, neither Skype nor Facebook - not even a telephone call - can come close to the joy of being with loved ones in person.

-- Marlo Thomas