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Sunday, 23 October 2011

What it takes to live away from family?


As a kid many times when our parents used to say in anger “Go away, leave my home!!”  ,we used to think ‘ let me  get bit older , I will leave your damn house’ ( and If your parents never said to you like this then surely you were one of the luckiest kids ) . Even I had such situations many times in life as I was very short tempered, though right now I am bit improved. Many times I didn’t get things which I wish I had due to a lower middle class background , I  used to go on roof and spend half night alone thinking when I would get old to leave these parents who never give me good things and always scowl me.

The afore mentioned insane thoughts can come to any kid even if you belong to a rich family. But when you actually get bit older, old enough to have a earning, you realize what it takes to get money and plan accordingly. If you are lucky enough to be brought up in metro cities and work at same place  then you might not realize what people living far away from their family realizes. If you are from north India and living in Bangalore or Chennai, sometime you will feel like living in foreign land, just because of this long distance of over 2000 KMs. It takes at least 2 months to plan a leave, forget about implementing it and planning budget. So what should one do in such situation? Of course if you are from upper middle class background or working in MNC then you can go to movies and KFBeer tweetup (sprouted from twitter) every two weeks but what if you are not earning handsomely? For me Social sites and TV are only way to time pass.

  • I’ll spend most of time on Twitter / Facebook (Not Orkut at all) whenever I am using Internet (if you can make some good friends on these sites ,believe me it works tremendously )
  • I’ll watch TV, news, comedy, some crap movies.
  • I’ll go for a walk of 2-3 KMs in evening, not for health reasons.
  • I’ll drink with some fiends and try to time pass by talking all nonveg nonsense.
  • If you have girl friend then you are on bit safe side to prevent yourself from getting bored
  • Better to develop a hobby even if you never had thought about that thing so far in life.

That’s all you can do I think, but if you are living with family then you might have kids around you to play with, you can spent time with relatives, parents and some local friends. Now here when I miss family and home made food, I start to think what I was thinking when I was a kid ( Yeh thoughts about leaving that damn house and all ). It takes a lot of effort to live away from family especially if you have some pecuniary constraints too.

So all kids enjoy every moment you are getting with your loved ones, you don’t know “ Kal Ghar ho na ho”  J

Wednesday, 23 February 2011

A Pragmatc example of DEADLOCK

During our College life we have heard of word DEADLOCK in physics ,computers and in some other subjects too .Few days back we were hearing about Parliament DEADLOCK .... but we were never given pragmatic example of DEADLOCK ......so here it s for all of you :))


From


To


Message
 
 

Boss


Secretary


For a week we will go abroad, so make arrangement.
 
 

Secretary


Husband


For a week my boss and I will be going abroad, you look after yourself.
 
 

Husband


Secret lover


My wife is going abroad for a week, so let’s spend the week together.
 
 

Secret lover


Small boy (whom she is giving private tuition)


I have work for a week, so you need not come for class.
 
 

Small boy


Grand-father


Grandpa, for a week I don't have class 'coz my teacher is busy. Let’s spend the week together.
 
 

Grandpa ( The Boss :) )


Secretary


This week I am spending my time with my grandson. We cannot attend that meeting.
 
 

Secretary


Husband


This week my boss has some work, we cancelled our trip.
 
 

Husband


Secret lover


We cannot spend this week together; my wife has cancelled her trip.
 
 

Secret lover


Small boy


This week we will have class as usual.
 
 

Small boy


Grandfather


Grandpa, my teacher said this week I have to attend class. Sorry I can't give you company.
 
 

Grandfather


Secretary


Don't worry this week we will attend that meeting, so make arrangement.

Wednesday, 9 February 2011

How to Test your Conscience and Value System ?

In 63 years of Indian Independence we have seen and heard of so many Scams but the last two years were worst on that part. Each night you watch news channel you will find likes of Arnab Goswami with a new EXPOSE .The question is what’s wrong with psyche and value system of such Indian people ? when you see our politicians living like a King but still get themselves involved in Scams, when you see IAS and IPS officers, Judges who earn quite a handsome money get themselves involved in corruption cases for more money, then what comes into your mind ? India is one of the most corrupt country in the World  Is it avoidable ? Few years back I read in a book about two tests to check your value System .I think these two tests can help a person to abstain form immoral works .

The first and main test is called the Mama (Mother) Test. Whenever you are doing, whatever you are doing wherever and with whomever, at home or at work, alone or with someone, if values are in question and you are confused,on moral ground  ask yourself "If my mama were to see me doing what I am doing right now,would she be proud of me and say " Wow , What a boy! " or would she hang her head in shame? " Your values would be clarified rather quickly. If you passed the Mama Test and failed all other tests, you have passed. If you failed the Mama Test and passed all other tests,you have failed.This is worth repeating.Think about it.

The Second Test is called the Baba Test. Whenever you are doing, whatever you are doing, wherever and with whomever, at home or at work,alone or with someone, if values are in question, ask yourself, "If my children were to see me doing what I am doing right now, would I want them to see it, or would I be embarrassed?" Again the clouds will clear rather quickly and you will get your answers.

Think once about these tests and try to implement , It has worked for me many times and  I wish if likes of A.Raja and Kalmadi could have applied these tests on themselves before looting us. If these two tests don't clarify a person's values, then that person is no longer a humanbeing and has no conscience left.

Thanks to Wonderful book  “ You Can Win “