No, it is not cool to look dull, dejected and depressed most
of the time. Do you think anyone would do it purposely just for sake of some
eyeballs or empathy? There are thousands of thoughts and impulses running
through a human mind every minute, can you read all those and say it’s all fake?
Looking at such people only from your perspective and deriving conclusion can
do more damage than the damage not bothering about the person at all will do.
Everyone has different ability to understand and deal with
situations they are in. Even if two situations are exactly same for two people,
their capability of tackling that can be contrastingly different in which one
may succeed and other may fail. This doesn’t mean that other person who failed is
sick, it only means that other person is weak and needs more support. Most of
the time people learn while going through some tough situations and if they get
support of someone who understands them, they feel more confident. In most of
the cases dejection and anxiety arises by just not being able to share thoughts
with someone he or she can trust without being judged or made fun of. Number of
people who feel anxiety or depression because of not having materialistic stuffs
like money must be very less. In most cases it is just the feeling of not being able
to put forward their inner troubling thoughts either due to bad experience in past
or they just don’t know how to put it in words.
There are many studies that have same common understanding about
this mental health issue, which is not having a person who is trustworthy and
is ready to listen. Though medical science is doing its job to make things easy
for people suffering from hyper anxiety, it is up to real people and
conversation to make things normal without swallowing tablets. As they say, Medical
treatment should be last resort to any suffering condition.
Do help people around who approach you, do listen to them.
Few minutes of your time can make that person’s days and weeks. If you don’t
want to do it, do tell frankly rather than keeping it lingering where it gets
irritating for both person. Someone has said that best way to feel better is by
helping someone to uplift themselves. Helping people who are dejected just by giving
them some of your time can make both people feel better.
This all sounds good but not everything is as smooth as one
wants it to be. You always won’t get what you wish for, be it materialistic or
emotional support. You won’t find the person who could listen to you. In such
cases be prepared to fight alone the battle of thoughts, learn to divert mind,
learn to love yourself. People will ignore you, they will bully and insult you, most of the times to satisfy their own ego. Just learn to get on with it as there is no alternative way. Distance yourself from people who make you uncomfortable and feel unwanted despite you being always there for them. If required, distance yourself from everyone for some time, being near to them isn't helping you any way. It is going to be really tough but no matter what, you have to get over such frivolous once sided affections. If someone has been really good to you in past and are not good now, it's not your fault if you have done nothing wrong, so stop taking blame for it on yourself and feel pity... Just move on.
Make some commitments to yourself and try hard to reach
those, it makes one feel good about oneself. There are lots and lots of amazing
content over internet that can help you get out of this situation. Remember
that only constant thing in life is change. Believe that tides will turn sooner
or later, you just need to balance yourself during turbulent waves.
Have Completeness
within yourself, lean inwards and not outwards for happiness. Remember that
there is no better feeling than fighting and eventually winning a battle in
which you were alone.